How to Host a Murder Mystery Party
How to Host a Murder Mystery Party (Without Losing Your Mind)
So you want to host a murder mystery party? Good choice. These themed gatherings are hilarious, interactive, and surprisingly easy to pull off — if you follow a few simple rules. Whether you’re looking for a dinner party with dramatic flair or a lively cocktail-style event full of sneaky suspects, here’s how to get started.
1. Don’t Create the Mystery Yourself — Buy a Kit
Seriously, don’t wing it. The easiest (and most fun) way to host your first murder mystery party is to buy a pre-made kit. These kits come with roles, scripts, instructions, and sometimes even themed decor or music suggestions. You can either download a digital kit (budget-friendly and instant) or order a boxed set that comes with physical extras.
Pro tip: Choose a kit from a reputable seller — reviews are your best friend here. Look for ones with customizable cast sizes, clear instructions, and good customer support.
Even more fun? Picking the theme. From 1920s speakeasies to 1980s proms or spooky haunted mansions, there’s something for every vibe. Choose a theme your friends will love dressing up for.
2. Build Your Guest List
Before you buy the kit, know your numbers. Most murder mystery games have a set number of “required roles” (main players) and a few “optional roles” for extras. That’s great for your flakey friend who RSVPs “maybe” and for those who just want to watch the drama unfold.
Aim for a reliable core group — your enthusiastic, show-up-in-costume friends — and leave a little flexibility for wild cards.
3. Send Clear, Themed Invitations
This is where you start setting the tone. When you invite people, be super clear about:
- The theme and any costume expectations
- Whether it’s a sit-down dinner or roaming cocktail-style
- How long the event will last
Once RSVPs are in, assign roles and send character descriptions ahead of time. This gives guests time to prepare, dress the part, and get into character.
Example: I once hosted a yacht-themed mystery. Guests were either “crew” or “high school reunion attendees” — including a few competing in a fictional beauty pageant. Because they had info in advance, we had captains in white blazers and 80s prom queens in sequins. Iconic.
4. Read the Kit Instructions (Yes, Really)
Each game has its own flow. Some are split into timed acts, some use clue cards, and others require you to prep envelopes or props ahead of time.
Don’t wing this part. Set aside a little time the day (or week) before to:
- Print or prep materials
- Place clues or items where they belong
- Know when to give out info or reveal twists
Your future self will thank you.
5. Be the Host and the Facilitator
Here’s the not-so-secret truth: you’re not just throwing a party — you’re the director of a live show. You’ll need to guide your guests, keep things moving, and gently help people stay in character without overdoing it.
Mistake to avoid: At one party, a guest had to “get information” from someone else… and stayed glued to their side for over an hour. Exhausting. Instead, remind people to treat their objectives as one of many party activities — like mingling, snacking, or playing detective.
6. Set the Scene for Murder
Now the fun part — atmosphere. Choose a space that fits the theme. Most people use their homes, but if your story screams masquerade ball or speakeasy, consider a venue.
Think themed decor, a signature cocktail, and fun snacks. Dim the lights, cue up a playlist, and let the murder games begin.
Bonus: Don’t Want to DIY?
If you’re in the Seattle area, Imperia Lake Union is a gorgeous venue known for curated, immersive events — perfect for hosting a Roaring ‘20s, haunted mansion or masquerade-style murder mystery. Better yet, let their team plan and facilitate the whole thing for you.
Not ready to host? The Murder Mystery Company puts on dinner shows right in Seattle. Show up, enjoy a meal, and get swept into a night of twists, laughs, and (fake) murder. Learn more here:
👉 New Murder Mystery Dinner Theater in Downtown Seattle
Danielle is one half of the wife-and-wife duo that owns and operates Imperia Lake Union. However, the employees and staff at Imperia Lake Union are what make Imperia a truly inclusive and spectacular venue to be experienced. These articles are based on her, and her staff’s, experience and expertise.